Sober Podcast 425 - Family and Codependency

(or, they have the right to fuck up their own life if they want to)

Some of this is about family, boundaries, being ‘enmeshed’ and ‘codependency’. But it’s also about how we take care of ourselves.

And boy don’t we get into trouble when we’re trying to give advice to someone who doesn’t want to take it …

The problem with us, over-drinkers, is that we over-invest in trying to solve other people’s stuff, and then ignore our own stuff. we hope that we can offer advice and FIX someone’s life for them. and then we’re mistaken, sad, and feel rejected.

But to think about ourselves, even when we have good information, it’s hard for US to make change and we LIVE in our heads. imagine that we think we can impact someone else’s life and get them to make change. (Lots of people want to talk about things that they are NOT interested in changing …)

This audio was recorded on March 16, 2021, in Burlington, Vermont